Misogyny or Justified?
Sometimes, like right now, I hate attractive women.

Is this misogyny, or is this justified?

The Wikipedia entry for misogyny gives several definitions, but it makes no mention of hatred of women, or more specifically, a subset of women, caused by actions that they have taken against the person.

Through no fault of my own, because of simple genetics, I, like countless other men, have been cursed with a subaverage, perhaps even foul, physical appearance. The immediate effect of this is to have lived a life in which attractive girls and women simply have no interest in me. Unless in a social situation where a greeting is customer, these women simply do not acknowledge my presence. I do not even get a simple "hello" from attractive women when out in public.

Because of this, I sometimes hate them, and I have to wonder if this is a justified hatred and not in fact misogyny. I do not hate them because they are women. I hate them because I have been, through circumstance, forced to live among this group of people who regard me as a nonentity.

Before you answer, think about this--if a person lives his whole life being harrassed and abused by police, is he justified in hating police?

Or, to give a closer analogy, if a person grows up poor but amidst the wealthy and finds himself constantly ignored, treated as if he did not exist, is he justified in developing a hatred for the rich?

What about the homeless? They are routinely ignored by other members of society. However, I've heard it reported many times that many homeless choose that lifestyle willingly for a variety of reasons. From that perspective, I would argue that if a person chooses not to bathe for long periods of time and chooses to ask for money without offering any contribution in return, then that person is causing himself to be ignored.

But subaverage or just plain ugly people are not necessarily in the same category, are they? Not unless you accept that a person like me should expend all resources possible to improve his looks. If that is the premise, then I am to blame, because I have neglected to undergo skin treatments, teeth straightening and whitening, a rigorous exercise regimen to acquire a more athletic body, hair treatments, and a change in wardrobe. So technically, I could take time away from things that genuinely improve my mind, my knowledge of the world, my personal development and use that time to maintain an appearance that might put me on radar screens of attractive women, even though doing so would probably leave me feeling like I was not doing anything worthwhile.

From that perspective, am I myself to blame for being a nonperson in the eyes of attractive women, and thus unjustified in hating them?

I just don't know.